Why then do new lovers continue to believe that their present exciting infatuation will last forever? Good relationships trigger the hell out of us without trashing the relationship; great relationships trigger the hell out of us while deepening the relationship.
Do you remind me of someone from my childhood whose love I still want? Plastic sexuality is decentered sexuality, freed from both reproduction and subservience to a fixed object. It can be molded as a trait of personality, and thus become bound up with the reflexivity of the self. If you are ready to deepen your emotional intelligence and experience wholehearted, wide-awake, relational intimacy, this book is for you.
The result is a book that anyone with a feeling heart, a questing mind, and a dedicated willingness to deeply encounter self and other, can surely understand and grow from immensely—again and again. Many of the words that describe long-lasting intimacy are also used to describe romantic liaisons in their inception.
It may seem as if only more mature people can achieve intimate relationships because lust is such a powerful driver in young people. Can we share the same values, ethicsand dreams, and make sure they are current? When a mutually compassionate eye can be cast upon the highlighted reactivity of one or both partners, the relationship is on course.
Transformation through Intimacy revised edition The Journey Toward Awakened Monogamy The passage toward awakened monogamy is not only a journey of deepening intimacy and awakening with a partner, but also an immensely liberating journey into ourselves. He sees them as intrinsic to the development of modern societies as a whole and to the broad characteristics of that development.
At a time when many are questioning the viability of longterm monogamy, Transformation Through Intimacy shows us that we ultimately have only two romantic choices: Do I fear that you will find fault with me?
Intimate relationship not only includes the mingling and encounter of differences but also, sooner or later, catalyzes a blatant exaggeration or flaring-up of differences, a vividly dramatized exposure — however unwittingly animated! That promise of forever connection with unending sexual excitement produces an obsessive compulsion to meld into the delusion of one combined being, never to be separated again.
Transformation through Intimacy is a magnificent map of awakening.
Not all people want or seek long-term intimacy, nor do they need to. Will we be there for each other when times are hard? About leaving a relationship: When couples achieve true intimacy, they know how to bring back their initial romantic feelings, but imbedded within the depth of the heart-sharing history they have created over time.
It can be molded as a trait of personality, and thus become bound up with the reflexivity of the self.
After working our way through the maze of childhoodmost of us enter adulthood searching for the romantic partner who will symbolically re-create the family relationships we have left behind.
The powerful seduction of strangers who can only see the fascination in each other is a compelling force. Entering such relationship is generally a rude awakening. Plastic sexuality is decentered sexuality, freed from both reproduction and subservience to a fixed object.
There are times when the shared heart is split into two densely walled The transformation of intimacy there are times when the shared body is a vacant lump; there are times when the shared limitations are just a royal pain in the shared ass; there are times when the shared boundlessness is just an idea; there are times when the shared mortality is but a tenured deadening; there are times when the shared being is crowded with loneliness; there are times when the shared yes is riddled with doubt.
There can be no agingno future challenges or losses, no disappointments, and no transformation of the original script. The words that describe romantic passion are very similar to those used in the descriptions of the relationship between devoted parents and their adoring children.
When we are apart, do I feel incomplete and unable to function until you are back with me? Do I want our relationship to The transformation of intimacy change? We live today in a social order in which, for the first time in histroy, women are becoming equal to men--or at least have lodged a claim to such equality as their right.
It steps on the toes of our egoity, unimpressed by our credentials, drawing us into an evolutionary drama in which our neuroses initially get to star as us and then are divested of such pretension, becoming but grist for the mill of awakening. Such is the apparent paradox of relationship.
If left unaddressed, this leaves our lives debilitatingly messy, no matter how well- scrubbed our place and face may be. We can resurrect our memories of romance but they are always underscored by the reality of who we really are for each other.
If we try to maintain the illusion, our romantic relationship will eventually die. From that place of earned respect and deeper love, they can simultaneously live in a larger interpersonal world while still holding the sacredness of their commitment to each other intact.
He is the cofounder, with his wife Diane, of the Masters Center for Transformation MCTa school featuring relationally-rooted psychospiritual work devoted to deep healing and fully embodied awakening. However, in such rough and wild waters swirls another possibility, one equipped with nothing but a lifeline to our heartland.
He is also the author of thirteen books, including Transformation Through Intimacy and Spiritual Bypassing. A relationship that lacks vulnerability is a relationship sentenced to the shallows.
After all, this asks that we venture from the shoreline into some really big waves. Sloppy dialogue, emotional illiteracy, go-nowhere arguments, little cruelties, everyday stupidities, mismatched desires, mechanical rituals, halfheartedness, putting off what needs to be done—these are some of the things that clutter many relationships.The Transformation of Intimacy How does 'sexuality' come into being, and what connections does it have with the changes that have affected personal life on a more general plane?
The Transformation of Intimacy has ratings and 14 reviews. The sexual revolution: an evocative term, but what meaning can be given to it today? How d /5. The sexual revolution: an evocative term, but what meaning can be given to it today? How does "sexuality” come into being, and what connections does it have with the changes that have affected personal life more generally?
In answering these questions, the author disputes many of the dominant interpretations of the role of sexuality in modern culture.4/5(5). Giddens argues that the transformation of intimacy, in which women have played the major part, holds out the possibility of a radical democratization of the personal sphere.
This book will appeal to a large general audience as well as being essential reading for students and professionals. “Transformation Through Intimacy is a bold, refreshing guide for anyone craving a deeper, more authentic connection with their beloved — AND who is willing to dive into new depths of compassion, understanding, and honesty.
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